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Ellen Anne Chong's avatar

Cintra writes:

"This was the elusive, ineffable thing I had been missing, all those years — shining moments with total strangers."

Cintra has done it again:

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apdarrow's avatar

Lovely, charming, and relatable. Living in a large city is So Freeing after experiencing a rural bubble. A word of advice, however, from the roadmaps on this crusty old bartender's legs: support hose. You can thank me later.

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Jack Boulware's avatar

You're gonna run that town in six months, tops

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Dr Pichello Heintz's avatar

Hahahaha! I agree!

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R. Newman's avatar

Even for the most extroverted of us, it's still quite daunting to move cross country. And you've survived doing it 3 times! Glad to see that this last time paid off for you in personal contentment and a sense of community, Cintra. You deserve to be happy.

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dmcg's avatar

Lovely. The change has done you good.

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Anne Hjortshøj's avatar

This is diamond-sharp. Thank you.

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Dr Pichello Heintz's avatar

What a lovely reply.

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𝐃𝐮𝐕𝐀𝐘 𝐊𝐍𝐎𝐗's avatar

They need u on 60 minutes as the New n Better version of what ANDY ROONEY was doing.....Cuz this is Artistry, right??

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Paul Kimball's avatar

So goddam good it makes me think, under the right circumstances, a wine bar might not actually be such a bad place to be.

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Paul Corman-Roberts's avatar

So glad you're out of fucking Marin.

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Nina's avatar

You must go to prospect park before winter! I’ve been exactly once, and was blown away by the diversity of humanity. My fav being 2 adorable twenty something girls selling homemade pot brownies directly next to the adorable Girl Scout troupe selling non-homemade cookies, both tables screaming at all the passing grannies to buy theirs first. I loved this so much.

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lett's avatar

from halfway across the world, these recent posts about your new life have been making me feel like i might actually be on the way of a new, better life at some point as well. i want the shining moments with total strangers more than anything! i suppose it's something you slowly figure out how to get. thank you for the hope, Cintra!

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Jim Blake's avatar

This is super ! Send it to "the New Yorker" and to the NY Times -start a bidding war.

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Dr Pichello Heintz's avatar

I was so pleased to read this, Cintra. I think you are where you belong, and that moment of “I-Thou” connection described by the philosopher Martin Buber is the most satisfying thing humans can do. Well, one of them..

My heart just swelled for you, Dear.

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Julie Steward's avatar

Martin Buber reference? A+ from I to Thou. I love him.

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Dr Pichello Heintz's avatar

YES!!! my master, my teacher, Leon Berkowitz of the Washington color school taught me all about that. Leon was actually quite the Mystic. Thank you for noticing

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Julie Steward's avatar

Washington color school?! Wow! I am merely Dr. Steward, Professor, but you, sir, are Dr. Heinz, Buber-quoting color school graduating hero!

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Dr Pichello Heintz's avatar

STAAAAHP….I’m a rusty ‘65 muscle car, running on only 2 cylinders and I leak when it rains. And I smoke too much.

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Laurie Zallen's avatar

You are so cool.

Oxo

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Kent Beck's avatar

Wow! Almost enough to get me out of my apartment.

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Vic Socotra's avatar

I took a moment from the burst of energy in this vituperative tale to look into the eyes Cintra chooses to share on her icon. The lips gloriously persed around the tip of her smoke-holder... It brings back vividly that energy she radiates, the raw sensuial nature of her power and caustic elegance. I wish we had been lovers back then. It was a treat to just share that proximity in tie and space!

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